Hey there, I’m Lucas and I’ve had to run away from a toxic situation.
I have a place to stay and I still have an income. but I’m going to have to ask for some extra help.
I take commissions and have access to a computer so if this tablet works I’ll be able to draw.
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do you guys remember that one post about how men feel entitled to take up so much space and women have to deal with a lot less?
This is actually a documented thing. You always see men on the subway or tube or whatever using both armrests while women sit with their arms hunched together into their laps. That’s why I always make a point to take up at least one if not both armrests of the tube so men can be uncomfortable for once.
^ again, for all the people telling me posting this picture is complaining too much.
In my college classes (and high school too) guys were always stretching, sticking fists and elbows in my face, leaning their heads back over my desk, over my work, spreading their legs out, kicking my bag with their dirty shoes. And let’s not pretend they were in other guys’ space as much as they were in women’s.
It’s so true, this happens to me every day on the train. Same with the walking thing, women will weave out of the way whereas men just walk straight and plow down anything in their path. I always end up playing chicken with men on the sidewalk now, because I refuse to move out of their way.
I love playing chicken with dudes who hog the sidewalk. BODY CHECK! Fucking assholes.
“NOT ALL MEN ARE LIKE THIS!” FUCK OFF.
“AS A MAN, I THINK THAT…” FUCK OFF.
Men always have the same defensive bullshit to spout every time they get called out on their shit. AND IT IS BORING. They remind me of those toys where you pull a string an they have like 5 phrases they can say. Over and over and over.
same here with playing chicken, its hilarious sometimes because they get this flash of realization in their eyes that says ‘holy shit, she’s NOT going to move/??? what do????’ because THEY ARE SO USED TO EVERYONE MOVING FOR THEM
when i was younger my grandpa drew this on a piece of paper,
and he asked me how i, as the red circle, would get around the two people (black circles) if i was walking down the street.
so of course i came back with
moving out of the way for them as i walked.
he asked me if i thought men would do the same and, at the time, i did because i thought it was just common courtesy. but he told me that men would barrel straight through without giving a shit and that i should do the exact same. because i was the one walking and they were the ones in the way. so that’s exactly what i do.
i find this really fascinating because this actually what defines so-called masculine and feminine traits and gestures. the whole limp-wrist thing? that’s someone decreasing the amount of space they take up by not extending their arm fully. same with crossing one’s legs, how it’s considered more masculine to swing your shoulders when you walk creating a wider gait instead of your hips, how someone who holds their elbows tightly into their torso instead of letting them fall more loosely at their sides is considered feminine.
taking up space is not just a frequent habit of males in our culture, its actually how society thinks masculinity is supposed to be expressed.
It’s also why you can seriously freak people out if you’re a woman by sitting back in your chair and draping your arm over the backrest of the one beside it.
It’s claiming space, and more importantly, it’s powerful body language. In primates (including humans), the individual that “opens” its chest—that is, leaves it open to attack—is the most dominant of them, precisely because it shows a confidence that no one WILL attack you.
Look at someone who’s comfortable vs someone who’s uncomfortable—the uncomfortable person will inevitably cross their arms or cover their chest to in an instinct to protect the thoracic cavity.
So, when you want to look HELLA confident, open up your chest and make direct eye contact. It feels weird (for women!) at first, but it’s the fastest way to freak a dude out. They genuinely do not know what to do when a woman displays behaviour they recognize as confident.
This was interesting. Literally never thought about it before.
I’m a female and I do this, I didn’t realize it was a masculine thing though. Our hallways at school are very crowded with people who just stand in the way, and we have to get from one side of the campus to the other in less than 4 minutes so we don’t have much time to just wait to awkwardly move around people. I figured out after a month in my freshmen year that waiting for a clear path wasn’t working time wise so i just started bariling through people in a straight line and let the others move. Especially men so my friends all hook in a line holding on to my arm so we can all get to class on time. They call me a rhino :P I also tend to stand really tall when I’m around men and people tend to think I am very aggressive by my stance posture and the way I walk around people. (I am also about 5’10 so…) I think women should start being more aggressive/confident in their walk, stance,sit, attitude whatever you wanna call it because it’s one empowering and two it makes me kind of sad to see females who “fold up” when they sit near men, or walk and duck out of crowded situations. Females be strong act masculine just do it. Stop letting the men push you around
The dude sitting next to me on the plane when I was flying home from Canada fucking did this to me, and I was sitting next to the window, so I fucking sat there curled up and was extremely uncomfortable for nearly 2 fucking hours. Also, he was APPALLED to be sitting next to a fat chick. He kept giving me dirty looks and making little huffing noises. And I was literally taking up NONE of his space, and he was forcing himself into mine.
I used to sit next to a guy in school who always pointed his elbows out and took up so much room. I would have a quarter of the desk. So in the end I would push my elbows back and he would move, slightly confused, but not questioning it. But I just want to add that although I find this interesting, people really shouldn’t generalise, since as long as I can remember my step-dad always steps out of his way for people, gesturing they can go past. So not all men do the move or else thing.
That is true, but it is considered to be a masculine trait. If you can remember to then it’s actually really useful as a woman to adopt traits like that. Changing your body language changes the you feel as well as the way other people behave towards you. When you see a group of threatening looking people blocking your way or restricting your space, taking up more space will not only make them more likely to get out of your way, it also will make you feel less intimidated by them.
Why are our photos not uploading from mobile …
They uploaded, but to the wrong place?
It’s chill and film day at home today! Watching the first Hunger Games with @cartilogenophobe
whenever someone asks me to explain what polytheism’s like, I tell them about the scene from the hobbit
you’re just chilling in your house and then all of a sudden these weird people start trickling in and in an hour there’s like a hundred of them in your house and breaking your shit and you just kind of stand and stare and wonder how this ended up to be your life
also, system life.
watch this irish man get tragically crushed by adorable sneezing baby seals
DO NOT WORRY, HUMAN, WE WILL KEEP YOU WARM UNTIL YOUR PARENTS RETURN FOR YOU. I HAVE CALLED FOR HELP.
Look at them! They’re basically flumpy water dogs!
Look how happy he is!
ThIS MAKES ME SOO HAPPY. I CANNOT EVEN BEGIN TO EXPLAIN WAHH